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Love: Cannes Review

Magnificent in its simplicity and its relentless honesty about old age, illness and dying, Michael Haneke’s Love (Amour) is a deliberately torturous watch, one that is going to weed the master’s fan club of the lightweights who went along for the ride with the morbid mental puzzle-solving of Hidden and Palm d’Or winner The White Ribbon.

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No riddles to figure out here in a script that is utterly linear and unfrilly, but at the same time executed with such clarity that there is never a false step or superfluous scene. Career-high performances from Jean-Louis Trintignant and Emmanuelle Riva as a genteel Parisian couple in their eighties illuminate the difficult, oft-treated subject matter, but however upscale the trappings it’s hard to imagine this downbeat study can reach the same audiences as Haneke’s recent work.

Accessibility is clearly not the issue, as everything is laid out in plain sight from the bang-on opening scene: the fire brigade breaks down the door of a spacious Paris apartment to find a long-dead old woman lying in bed, her head surrounded by flowers. The rest of the film is a claustrophobic flashback leading up to this moment.

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Switch to a classical music concert in which only the audience is seen from the stage in a single elegant, long-held shot. Among them are Anne (Riva) and Georges Laurent (Trintignant), two music aesthetes long into retirement. He hobbles a bit but they seem to be a cheerful, alert and loving pair who treat each other with enormous civility. Coming home that night, he makes an offhand comment about how pretty she looks that expresses all the tenderness of a life-long relationship.

Then Anne has her first stroke, a mild affair mistreated with an operation (evidently at Georges’ insistence) that leaves her half-paralyzed and in a wheelchair. And so begins their terrible ordeal, whose outcome is already known.

Moment by moment, the actors delicately describe Anne’s descent into physical and eventually mental debilitation, while Haneke focuses with physician-like steadiness on the test it puts on Georges’ love for his wife. When he steps out of the apartment to attend a funeral, she tries to jump out the window. She feels humiliated by her condition and hates to be seen, but she can’t refuse the agitated visits of their daughter Eva (Isabelle Huppert, star of Haneke’s The Piano Teacher, another uncompromising exploration of love.) Huppert negotiates a persuasive middle road, alternating hysteria and a conventional, teary reaction to Mom’s plight with a little chat about investments.

All this serves as a stark contrast with her father’s measured words and behaviour as he tries to keep up Anne’s spirits and preserve her personal dignity.  Looking back, the two remember emotional moments from the past, but not the events themselves. After Anne has a second stroke, Georges bows to the need for part-time nurses. The degenerating nature of her illness is very painful to watch, as she gradually loses the power of speech and seems to return to a state of early childhood, inarticulately crying out her pain.

If Georges and Anne find no emotional support from family, there is not the slightest vestige of religious comfort in the household. Society is simple absent, and even the funeral he attends is a ludicrous flop – he describes how everyone giggles at the slowness of the urn being mechanically lowered into the grave. Thus the great dignity of the film’s wrenching final scenes soar high above any kind of moral or ethical debate, which other films have dealt with extensively, and beyond the questions of evil and responsibility that Haneke himself raises elsewhere. This lack of familiar handholds will make the film steep climbing for many viewers, putting them face to face with the nature of love in its most unromantic and weighty moments.

Trintignant and Riva are consummate veterans of French cinema but put aside their baggage of famous films from his And God…Created Woman to her Hiroshima Mon Amour to approach these roles with concentrated freshness, making each moment a deep plunge into a heroic side of themselves. In a special cameo, young classical pianist Alexandre Tharaud (who performs Schubert, Beethoven and other music in the film) appears as Anne’s brilliant pupil, who has become a world-famous recording artist.

With practically all the action taking place in the Laurents’ apartment, production designer Jean-Vincent Puzos positions them in a falsely safe world of refinement filled with tapestries and bookshelves, Persian carpets and a grand piano. Darius Khondji’s rich, warm cinematography echoes the cocoon feeling of a world that time catches up with, just as a stray pigeon wanders behind locked doors from time to time.

Venue: Cannes Film Festival (competition), May 20, 2012.
Production companies: Les Films du Losange, X Filme Creative Pool, Wega Film
Co-Production: France 3 Cinéma, ARD Degeto, Bayerischer Rundfunk, Westdeutscher Rundfunk
Cast: Jean-Louis Trintignant, Emmanuelle Riva, Isabelle Huppert, Alexandre Tharaud, William Shimell
Director: Michael Haneke
Screenwriters: Michael Haneke
Producers: Margaret Menegoz, Stefan Arndt, Veit Heiduschka, Michael Katz
Executive producers: Margaret Menegoz, Uwe Schott, Michael Katz
Director of photography: Darius Khondji
Production designer: Jean-Vincent Puzos
Costumes: Catherine Leterrier
Editors: Monika Willi, Nadine Muse
Music: Schubert, Beethoven, Bach played by Alexandre Tharaud
Sales Agent: Les Films du Losange
No rating, 127 minutes.

I knew it was love when …

After dating for a year, we bought a to-be-built town house together in January. Later that month he asked romantically, “So you want to get married?” and shocked my father by asking his permission. I was 39 and he was 41neither previously married. By Valentine’s Day we were planning our summer wedding. In April he moved into my apartment. And when he decided to sell his Datsun 240Z to pay off my Corolla, I knew how much he really loved me! We moved into the town house that fall. We’ll celebrate our 25th anniversary in July.

— Judy Maas

I had been a widow for over two years. A neighbor asked if I would “like to meet a gentlemen” she knew. I wasn’t too sure, but after I was interviewed on the phone by his daughter, he called and we made a dinner date. He arrived on my doorstep, neither one of us knowing what the other looked like. We hit it off immediately and were married six months to the day later. My dad always told me my Prince Charming would come to the door. He did, but it took 50 years!

— Jeannine Warren

Sandy and I went to high school together, and during our senior year, Sandy asked me to a “girl asks boy” formal. I never thought of her as a girlfriend, so I turned her down. After thinking about it overnight, I saw her at school and accepted. I was shy and new to the dating game. As we were walking from the car to the dance, Sandy took my arm. Somehow that broke the ice, and we had a great time. We were married four years later . This year we will celebrate our 54th wedding anniversary.

— Nick Dispensa

As the manager/coach of the Passavant Hospital women’s softball team in 1973, I was impressed with nurse Kathy Anderson’s ability to play third base. More impressive was her compassionate, empathetic way with people. One play, an opposing player came into third standing up and promptly put Kathy, who was standing on third with the ball in hand, onto the ground. Indignant, Kathy defiantly stood up and shouted, “You can’t do that!” (Very competitive; yet, incorrect.) We’ve been married 37 years.

Alan Schmuttenmaer

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Love is primarily an action in Bible; not an emotion

“Talk is cheap.” “Actions speak louder than words.” “You have to be willing to put your money where your mouth is.” “You can talk the talk, but can you walk the walk?” Phrases like these remind us that people nowadays are keenly aware of hypocrisy. They can smell it a mile away and love to point it out. If you consistently speak one way and act another, you won’t fool people for very long. You’ll be called out for the fraud that you are.  

This is particularly true when it comes to being a Christian. The unbelieving world just loves to point out hypocrisy in the Christian church. There are very few things that make the opponents of Christianity more tickled with glee than to see a news report about a well-respected church leader caught up in some shameful scanda. One of most frequently used excuses by those who don’t want to go to church is, “Those people are all a bunch of hypocrites.”

As believers, Jesus tells us that we are the light of the world.  We reflect the love and goodness of our Savior in the way we live our lives. By our words and actions we draw people to Christ and his precious gospel message. Through faith we know and believe that Jesus laid down his life for us on the cross. By the single greatest act of love in human history he paid the full price for all our sins. His incredible love of Jesus now empowers and motivates us to live lives of love for God and for one another.

In his first epistle, the Apostle John marvels at God’s amazing love for us in Christ: “How great is the love the Father has lavished on us that we should be called children of God” (3:1). He also urges us to demonstrate that we are in fact children of God by showing sincere love for others: “Dear children, let us not love with words or tongue but with actions and in truth” (3:18). Children of God are not hypocrites. We don’t just say we love God; we show it by obeying his commands. We don’t just say we love our fellow man; we show it by living in a way that puts the needs of others first.

It’s important to remember that love is primarily an action word in the Bible, not an emotion. Paul tells us in 1 Corinthians, “Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud.  It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails” (Chapter 13). Our faith shows itself in things we say and do and in the way we treat other people.  Jesus once said, “I am the vine; you are the branches. If a man remains in me and I in him, he will bear much fruit” (John 15:6). We’re told in Galatians those fruits include, “love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control” (Galatians 5:22). When we see these fruits of the Spirit in our lives as Christians, when we see love in action, it gives us a certain amount of confidence that our faith is genuine and that the love of Jesus really is dwelling in our hearts and influencing the way we live.

But there’s a problem with looking to yourself and the fruits showing themselves in your life for such confidence, isn’t there? What happens when we don’t see these fruits in our lives? What happens when we don’t demonstrate Christ-like love in our words and actions? As sinners, our love will always be imperfect. It will always be tainted by sin.  And when we fail, our hearts condemn us, don’t they? Satan quickly jumps on our failures and accuses us, “You call yourself a Christian? You’ll never get to heaven like that!” Guilt and fear weigh down our hearts.

And yet, listen to what John writes, “Whenever our hearts condemn us…God is greater than our hearts, and he knows everything” (1 John 3:20).  When your heart condemns you, realize what’s happening. It’s lying to you, telling you that your sin is greater than God’s love, greater than his grace, greater than the sacrifice of your Savior Jesus.  It’s all a lie. The truth is this: the blood of Jesus purifies us from all sin. We find peace for our troubled consciences in the forgiveness that our Savior has won for us. When we are weighed down by guilt, when sin and Satan have us so mixed up and confused that we start to doubt whether God loves us, God is greater than our hearts. He sees our faith and the sacrifice of his Son and he proclaims to us in the gospel, “You are clean, because I have made you clean.”   

Notice that John points out here that God knows everything, and he actually intends this to be a comforting thought. To many, this is the most terrible thought imaginable! If God knows everything, that means he knows the countless sins we have committed against him. He knows even the secret sins that lurk within our hearts, the ones we desperately try to hide from everyone else. He even knows the sins that we aren’t even aware of.  It can be a frightening thought to realize that God knows and sees everything.

As Christians, we don’t lie to ourselves and pretend that we never sin. But at the same time we don’t crucify ourselves for our sins either, because we know that Jesus has paid for the world’s guilt on the cross. Those who don’t believe in Jesus have to try to ease their troubled conscience by simply trying really hard to do what God commands and then crossing their fingers and hoping it’s enough. Such efforts can never bring us true and lasting peace. But as Christians, we find rest for their wearied and burdened souls in the forgiveness and salvation that Jesus has won for us. We depend completely on him. And thus we find peace.           

What a profound impact this has on our lives. When your heart no longer condemns you, you wake up each day with the burden of shame and guilt lifted from your shoulders. Jesus’ love and forgiveness, not guilt or fear, motivate you to obey his commands and do what pleases him. You show kindness and compassion to others, simply because that is how Jesus wants you to live.  When you trust in the forgiveness and salvation that Jesus has won for you, when you stay connected to Christ and the power of his Holy Spirit by listening to the Word of God and receiving Holy Communion, a life of love comes naturally. Jesus is the vine. You are the branches, branches which naturally bear fruit.  

There is no pressure to demonstrate to God that you are good enough to earn his favor, no fear of not being worthy enough to stand in his presence. Jesus has already taken care of all that for you. He has made you worthy by living and dying in your place. And now, when it comes to doing good works, there is no pressure, no fear.  

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Phrases like, “You have to,” and, “You must,” are replaced with a joyful, “I will.” The hopeless task of trying to earn your own salvation is replaced with simply living in Jesus’ love.

Same-sex marriage support a sign of love, acceptance and devotion to God

The door leading to godly truth often swings on the hinges of social diversity. Even the Bible was the result of complex debates spanning thousands of years and involving many languages, diverse cultures, and a host of political decisions about which books to admit and omit. The plurality of voices in scripture reveals a clear biblical message—sacred truth demands diverse perspectives. In his book “Pastoral Theology in an Intercultural World”, the pastoral theologian Emmanuel Lartey celebrates diversity’s role in truth-making: “Truth, knowledge, and justice are not attained in solitary thought….Truth involves…a basic act such as engaging in dialogue with the Other….To practice truth is to welcome the Other.”

Similarly, the pastoral task of “making love” requires an affirmation of diversity. The phrase “making love” should not be reduced exclusively to erotic activity. Making love is the mission of the church. The Apostle Paul’s beautiful love hymn reminds the church of its love-making mandate: “If I speak in the tongues of mortals and of angels, but do not have love, I am a noisy gong or a clanging cymbal….Love is patient; love is kind….Love never ends” (1 Corinthians 13:1, 4, 8). This hymn entices believers to embrace genuine love — the compassionate concern for others that transcends sheer self-interest and removes the fear of people who differ from us.

Imagine how much more care-full Christian congregations would be if they caressed people with Paul’s gracious words about love in 1 Corinthians 13 instead of battering them with his ungenerous words about gays and lesbians in Romans 1. Furthermore, our neglect of another biblical “love note” has diminished our love life: “There is no fear in love, but perfect love casts out fear” (1 John 4:18).

In her book “All about Love: New Visions,” the cultural critic bell hooks observes: “Fear is the primary force upholding structures of domination….When we are taught that safety lies always with sameness, then difference, of any kind, will appear as a threat. When we choose to love we choose to move against fear — against alienation and separation. The choice to love is a choice to connect — to find ourselves in the other.” Diversity is crucial for pursuing truth and making love. Consequently, there is no more pressing pastoral task than teaching people how to encounter diversity without the fear and fanaticism that terminate dialogue and destroy difference.

In my experience, familiarity with loved ones or LGBT persons who are open about their sexual identity (i.e. “out” LGBT persons) significantly contribute to the development of more inclusive perspectives regarding sexual differences. While academic study facilitated my journey toward inclusive theology, the decisive moments involved friendships with “out” LGBT persons who challenged and expanded my theological and cultural boundaries. Warm relationships, not cold logic, transformed me.

For example, at the covenant ceremony of two lesbian friends in Atlanta in 1996, the presence of grace and holiness in that ceremony and later at their dinner table was undeniable. Additionally, during my first pastorate in Baltimore, a gay friend and parishioner accepted my invitation to join the church’s leadership team. His anointed leadership and winsome personality transformed the congregation’s worship life and community outreach. Witnessing his powerful ministry, I realized that right “heart orientation,” not straight sexual orientation, is God’s requirement for service in the church. I now also firmly believe that what makes a marriage “sacred” in God’s eyes is not the gender of the couple but the couple’s ability to generate sacred love that is the antidote for the hostility and hate that fill our world.

As a professor of ministers in training, I will continue to teach students to embrace inclusive love. As the Senior Pastor of The Open Church in Baltimore, I will continue to encourage congregants to be radically open to the sacred beauty of social diversity. This means that when I preside at the altar at The Open Church, that altar is open enough to also bless same-sex couples as they journey along their pathway toward God, the ultimate source of life and love.

Rev. Dr. Brad Braxton is the founding Senior Pastor of The Open Church in Baltimore, Md. and effective June 1, 2012, the Lois Craddock Perkins Professor of Homiletics at Southern Methodist University.

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The law needs to catch up with love

When I heard the words of President Obama affirming marriage for all couples, it made me proud to be an American and proud to be a person of African heritage. I thought back on meeting President Obama in the Oval Office and sharing my story with him around the need for equality for all Americans, including LGBT people. I believed him then when he responded that he would do his very best to work for fairness and equality.

Today, I am encouraged that President Obama has stepped onto the justice side of history by courageously speaking to his convictions. I stand a little taller as an African American who is clergy, lesbian and legally married in Washington, DC. I do not take the President’s support lightly.

I think back to the moment in February when I knew my Maryland citizenship counted as I stood before the Maryland State Senate and told my story.

“I am Rev. Candy Holmes, a minister of the Metropolitan Community Churches and I have lived in Prince George’s County for over 35 years. Because of who I am and who I love, my family is not able to be legally protected, and is vulnerable in ways others will never have to worry about.”

I urged the legislators to pass the Civil Marriage Protection Act to provide my family and the families of many committed same-sex couples equal standing in the eyes of the law. When Maryland’s Governor O’Malley signed that bill we celebrated loud and long. Though there are those who seek to vote away my right as a citizen, I hold true as a Marylander and await the day the law will go into effect.

Now, in the midst of the disappointing vote around the passing of Amendment One in North Carolina and The United Methodist Church again rejecting gay and lesbian people, my faith is renewed because of the stance of President Obama. I am deeply moved by our president’s affirmation of same-sex marriage and appreciate his journey toward a more complete understanding that all Americans should be seen as equals and protected under the law. I learned that my citizenship as an American really does matter!

I treasure my place as a citizen of Maryland and the United States. Many have walked a long hard journey to ensure my rights that many take for granted-voting, marriage, freedom. I now walk that journey to freedom and responsibility for the next generations. I walk this journey for our children and our grandchildren so they can be who they are and be respected and treated fairly under the law-regardless of who they love.

As one of our grandkids innocently said some years ago to my wife and I when they were trying to understand why their grandmothers had not gotten married, they said “Love makes you and grandma, and everybody better. The law needs to catch up with love.”

My resolve around equality is strengthened by the faith of my family. I will not stand idly by as naysayers attempt to disrespect our families. Our grandchild said it best — marriage equality isn’t a “gay thing,” it’s about love and family. It is about the fundamental values that all who desire to marry should be afforded this right. All couples, including same-sex couples deserve the joy, happiness and ‘completeness’ that comes with a civil marriage. Now is the time for justice to catch up with what really matters –love, family, and protection under the law for all Americans. Thank you, President Obama for standing on the side of justice.

Rev. Candy Holmes is a minister in the Metropolitan Community Churches (MCC). She is a Public Policy Liaison for Marriage Equality, Adoptions and Faith with the Global Justice Institute.

Sweet words of illicit love – ‘Mr SA’ first prince wrecked my family

He’s bought his beloved wife a bunch of flowers to celebrate her promotion and is putting in time helping her to transfer all the info on her computer to a new laptop and cellphone – and he comes across declarations of love between her and her secret lover.

The alleged guilty party is Mr South Africa first runner-up Zane Mandisi Maqetuka.

It is alleged the “first prince” is having an affair with customary law wife Ntomboxolo “Ntombs” Duka.

The husband asked not to be named.

The Cape Town-based budding filmmaker and model, originally from Graaff-Reinet, Eastern Cape, is understood to have been seeing Duka since 2009, before Duka met her hubby.

But it seems they hadn’t had enough of each other as they continued to meet and exchange sweet messages.

During an interview with Sunday World at their home this week, Duka apologised and promised to work things out with her man.

Duka and her husband say they have been undergoing counselling.

Duka, who has an 11-month old baby with her current partner, says she last saw Maqetuka in March this year, the day after he was crowned South Africa’s second best man.

She confessed that she took him to their home in Randpark Ridge, west of Joburg.

“It was the first and last time I had seen him since 2010,” she said.

Ironically, the husband stumbled upon Duka’s infidelity in the course of helping her.

She had been promoted from call centre regional manager to human resources manager at mining conglomerate Anglo American.

In order to wish her well for her new appointment, the unsuspecting husband bought her a bouquet of flowers.

And he was helping Duka transfer and back up her work files from an old laptop to the new one and her BlackBerry phone when he stumbled upon compromising pictures of the two. He also found e-mail and BBM messages on her work e-mail and BlackBerry.

An e-mail from Maqetuka to Duka, sent on May 12 2010, read: “I am not sure what happened but if you are busy it’s ok then.

“We can [chat] later my baby coz I am bit busy as well over here.

“I am keeping our candle of love and trust and loyalty and happiness between us burning. Therefore no outside force can penetrate what I have with you.”

Duka responded: “I love you my baby.”

In another e-mail, Maqetuka is giving his girlfriend advice about her car problems after she told him she had received a quotation for damages to her BMW totalling more than R41000.

In another one, interestingly, she invited him to a seminar titled “How deep is your love: A seminar on how to break relationship addiction” where an expert was going to talk about how to handle attachment in relationships.

The seminar was set for Maponya Mall in Soweto on May 15 this year.

Duka forwarded the invite to Maqetuka and wrote: “Hey luv, I have two invites for this weekend and think will attend both. Here isoneand the next will follow.”

A rattled Duka says the sultry pictures were taken at Maqetuka’s home in Eastern Cape, but refuses to disclose the date of the “shoot”.

“They were taken at his grandmother’s house in Graaff- Reneit. Zane and I are homeboys.

“We come from the same small town in Eastern Cape,” she says.

The pictures show the two lovebirds cuddling together, both in bed and on a couch.

In another explicit image, Maqetuka is seemingly measuring his “baby’s” behind with his hefty open hand.

The heart-broken hubby, out of anger and frustration, wrote a letter to the organisers of Mr South Africa on Thursday:

“I’m appalled that Mr SA Pageant supports and encourages its participants and members to break up other people’s families.

“One of your contestants, first runner-up, Zane Mandisi Maqetuka, has destroyed my family, as I discovered on my wife’s phone this morning.

“I have graphic pictures of them, e-mail communication between the two and a picture of BBM messages that passed … between them.

“He destroyed my marriage.

“I have an 11-month old daughter with my wife; she shares the same birthday as me.”

Maqetuka could not be reached for comment by the time of going to press.

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What were you thinking woman? Why did you get married at the first place knowing you cannot keep your legs closed? Stupid fool.

This husband is also foolish, why go and publish it at the Sowetan Newspaper???? Now everyone knows that your wife is bonking by different men. Improve your performance bro.

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Sweet words of illicit love – ‘Mr SA’ first prince wrecked my family

He’s bought his beloved wife a bunch of flowers to celebrate her promotion and is putting in time helping her to transfer all the info on her computer to a new laptop and cellphone – and he comes across declarations of love between her and her secret lover.

The alleged guilty party is Mr South Africa first runner-up Zane Mandisi Maqetuka.

It is alleged the “first prince” is having an affair with customary law wife Ntomboxolo “Ntombs” Duka.

The husband asked not to be named.

The Cape Town-based budding filmmaker and model, originally from Graaff-Reinet, Eastern Cape, is understood to have been seeing Duka since 2009, before Duka met her hubby.

But it seems they hadn’t had enough of each other as they continued to meet and exchange sweet messages.

During an interview with Sunday World at their home this week, Duka apologised and promised to work things out with her man.

Duka and her husband say they have been undergoing counselling.

Duka, who has an 11-month old baby with her current partner, says she last saw Maqetuka in March this year, the day after he was crowned South Africa’s second best man.

She confessed that she took him to their home in Randpark Ridge, west of Joburg.

“It was the first and last time I had seen him since 2010,” she said.

Ironically, the husband stumbled upon Duka’s infidelity in the course of helping her.

She had been promoted from call centre regional manager to human resources manager at mining conglomerate Anglo American.

In order to wish her well for her new appointment, the unsuspecting husband bought her a bouquet of flowers.

And he was helping Duka transfer and back up her work files from an old laptop to the new one and her BlackBerry phone when he stumbled upon compromising pictures of the two. He also found e-mail and BBM messages on her work e-mail and BlackBerry.

An e-mail from Maqetuka to Duka, sent on May 12 2010, read: “I am not sure what happened but if you are busy it’s ok then.

“We can [chat] later my baby coz I am bit busy as well over here.

“I am keeping our candle of love and trust and loyalty and happiness between us burning. Therefore no outside force can penetrate what I have with you.”

Duka responded: “I love you my baby.”

In another e-mail, Maqetuka is giving his girlfriend advice about her car problems after she told him she had received a quotation for damages to her BMW totalling more than R41000.

In another one, interestingly, she invited him to a seminar titled “How deep is your love: A seminar on how to break relationship addiction” where an expert was going to talk about how to handle attachment in relationships.

The seminar was set for Maponya Mall in Soweto on May 15 this year.

Duka forwarded the invite to Maqetuka and wrote: “Hey luv, I have two invites for this weekend and think will attend both. Here isoneand the next will follow.”

A rattled Duka says the sultry pictures were taken at Maqetuka’s home in Eastern Cape, but refuses to disclose the date of the “shoot”.

“They were taken at his grandmother’s house in Graaff- Reneit. Zane and I are homeboys.

“We come from the same small town in Eastern Cape,” she says.

The pictures show the two lovebirds cuddling together, both in bed and on a couch.

In another explicit image, Maqetuka is seemingly measuring his “baby’s” behind with his hefty open hand.

The heart-broken hubby, out of anger and frustration, wrote a letter to the organisers of Mr South Africa on Thursday:

“I’m appalled that Mr SA Pageant supports and encourages its participants and members to break up other people’s families.

“One of your contestants, first runner-up, Zane Mandisi Maqetuka, has destroyed my family, as I discovered on my wife’s phone this morning.

“I have graphic pictures of them, e-mail communication between the two and a picture of BBM messages that passed … between them.

“He destroyed my marriage.

“I have an 11-month old daughter with my wife; she shares the same birthday as me.”

Maqetuka could not be reached for comment by the time of going to press.

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What were you thinking woman? Why did you get married at the first place knowing you cannot keep your legs closed? Stupid fool.

This husband is also foolish, why go and publish it at the Sowetan Newspaper???? Now everyone knows that your wife is bonking by different men. Improve your performance bro.

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